The important thing women in domestic violence situations should know though ... Is that they are not alone.
1.3 million,that's the number of women victimized each year due to domestic violence.
"They blame themselves a lot, its not their fault, I don't care what they've done, nobody has a right to hit you," says Beverly Youse, Executive Director, House Of Ruth.
"Anything that makes you feel bad about who you are as a human being it can be considered as domestic violence, " says Harolyn Benjamin, Women's Program Director of Christian Mission Center.
If you find yourself in a domestic violence situation ... Counselors say it's important to put a plan of action in place to make a safe escape.
"Anyone who is thinking about getting out should have a plan and part of that plan should be making sure you have all of your financial information, making sure you know where your going to be going but then also making sure you talked to family members and letting them know whats going on, " says Benjamin.
Children should also be considered.
"Not only do you need to make sure your ok but you have to make sure that your children are ok because a lot of times they are affected."
"Even though you make think your children aren't aware and you only fight when the children are asleep, they know, they are not asleep," says Youse.
"There are many reasons why people want to stay in their relationships, religion, family tradition, family pressure, divorce still can be a stigma, its better for the children to have a father"
Domestic violence shelters say controlling behavior should not be mistaken for love.
Benjamin also says it is tougher for younger women to leave situations of domestic violence.
If you or someone you know is in a situation and needs help, call the House of Ruth at 334 793 5214.